You find yourself at your boundaries

Healthy boundaries

At your boundary you sense yourself. There you are clear, present, fully here. A boundary is not a fence that locks you in, but a fine line – like the one between land and sea – at which you recognise where you end and the other begins.

Boundaries are a competitive sport

Sometimes I compare keeping boundaries to sport: whoever says yes or no at the right moment, with intuition and self-control, gains in standing and self-respect. At the boundary, winning or losing is decided – not against others, but for yourself. It is worth becoming one of the best “boundary athletes” within your own social fabric.

The power of crossing boundaries

And yet we often only grow when we reach our boundaries – and sometimes go a little beyond them. Pain teaches you to sense your own boundaries more precisely, to set them more consciously and to protect them better. Growth means transforming fear into courage – ideally within a framework that holds you.

How we work on this

In my workshops I combine yoga, breathwork, systemic coaching and constellation work, so that boundaries do not remain merely a thought but become tangible in the body. Two books accompany me in this: “Bis hier und nicht weiter” by Rolf Sellin (systemic) and “Liebe kennt deine Grenzen” by Ludwig Schwankl (energetic). You can also find both on my media page.