What new mums long for in their relationship

Family & Systemic Work

With a baby, everything changes – the relationship included. From a systemic perspective it is easy to understand why: a young mother turns all of her attention inward, towards the child. That is precisely why she needs protection from the outside.

The chain of protection

You can picture it like a chain: the baby needs protection – the mother gives it inwardly – and the mother herself needs protection from the outside, through her partner. When this outer protection is missing, the mother ends up caught in a balancing act that wears her down.

Why the first years matter

Sleep deprivation and hormonal changes make her especially sensitive and vulnerable. That is why I advise against making hasty decisions about separation in those first years – much of what now seems insurmountable is the expression of an exceptional situation. With understanding and support, this phase can become a time of growth as a couple.

Support that holds

In systemic family coaching we look at your dynamic together – without blame, with clarity. This way you find your way back to a togetherness that carries mother, child and relationship alike.